First of all, you probably don’t want to be quaffing champagne right now. At a guess, you will be very pleased to receive a cup of tea and a slice of toast. You’ve just done one of the most strenuous, amazing, rewarding things in your life. High fives and hugs all round, but you probably won’t want to be cracking the flutes out the cupboard just yet. The first few days will be full of love, wonder and bloody hard work. Mostly filled with cuddling your baby, endless feeding and changing and settling back down to life with another member of the family.
Surviving the newborn days
As a parent, everyone is keen to give you lots of advice. The one thing to remember is that people can give all the advice they want to give (and it probably will be well-meant) but YOU are the parent.
You do what you feel is best for you and your family. The way most try to deal with advice is to take it all in, and just take the tips they feel best adheres to their needs/wants/beliefs and go from there. In this article, we wanted to share some of those tips with you.
- Don’t be scared! Motherhood is fab. And hard. And everything else.
- Breast fed, bottle fed or tube fed. Fed is best.
- You will cry A LOT in the first few weeks after birth! You will think that you have totally lost it on Day 3.
- Remember everyone does things differently it’s not a reflection on if you’re right or wrong.
- If you think you have postnatal depression, then it’s absolutely worth a chat with your health visitor, midwife or GP. There are also charities such as The Pandas Foundation who will listen and support you.
- Just go with the flow. You won’t know what’s hit you. Just go with it.
- Enjoy the sleepy snuggles. They don’t stay small for long. Before you know it, they will be toddlers (who then come with entirely different challenges in the form of tantrums!)
What do others say?
Every parent is different and I asked some other mummy bloggers on their tips for enjoying the first days with their newborns, this is what they said:
- Gail (Yammy Mommy) – Enjoy it, even the night feeds and the bits where you feel clueless. I so miss the newborn stage. For me it was magical.
- Polly (Our Seaside Baby) – Take your time! Take things slow, take time with breastfeeding, limit visitors for the first few days, lower your expectations about getting things done and just enjoy those early days with your newborn.
- Michelle (All things baby and me) – The amazing benefits of skin to skin.
- Becky (Mommy and Rory) – Spend plenty of time at home in your pj’s. Don’t rush to leave the house. When you’re ready, let people come to you.
- Irina (Wave to Mummy) – Don’t be afraid to say no to too eager visitors, try to relax and stay at home as much as possible and use delivery services.
- Alex (Better Together Home) – I would recommend spending some time getting things organised to prepare for the first few weeks – things like preparing meals in advance and freezing them, stocking up on loo roll and household essentials – the kinds of things you really don’t want to run out of when you are stuck home with a newborn!
- Emma Reed – To just enjoy it all. Relax and forget about the housework, chores, washing etc. Take in those lovely first days and soak up the baby newness. Everyone tells you it gets easier but I personally found those first few weeks the easiest because it is bliss holding a newborn. If someone offers help, take it. Let them make you those cuppas and run your errands.
- Sarah (Mummy Cat Notes) – Don’t listen to any unwanted advice people feel the need to share, let yourself learn how to do things and develop your own parenting style.
Take it easy and feel the love
The most valuable piece of advice, and one which we would tell ANY new mother is: No matter what ANYONE recommends or tells you, do whatever works for you. No judgement. Just do whatever works for you, even if that changes constantly.
Every parent and every child are different. Cherish every moment and do what you feel is right for you and your family. Most of all, enjoy!
What would be your top tip for new mums? Please share using the comments box below. Let’s keep on celebrating new mums and negate the judgement. Every mum has her own story, own attitude and is making her own decisions whilst navigating the crazy world of parenthood. We should celebrate that and support each other along the way.